dear friends,
you may remember that i swore my baby would sleep in the nursery from day 1. no bassinets for us. well i was out of my mind and i don't know how i would have survived without one. that being said, i am curious about how long you kept your baby in a bassinet in your room. i am already feeling like i should get her used to sleeping in her crib {which she NEVER does... not even for naps in the day}. but the thought of having her in the other room makes me panic. not because i'm worried about her. i'm worried about me and the prospect of getting even less sleep if i'm back & forth between rooms all night. also, she's gotten into the bad habit of refusing to go back to sleep after her middle of the night feeding unless i'm holding her or she's on the bed next to me. she flips when i put her back in the bassinet and is totally fine the second i pick her up. even if i let her fall asleep in my arms, the second i put her in the bassinet, she's wide awake and mad at her mama. if she was in the nursery i maybe would just let her cry, but when she's in our room i hate to have her waking sean up. anyway, i'm sure this is nothing new to you moms, but your thoughts would be appreciated!
thanks in advance.
xo
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I'm probably the wrong person to ask {or the wrong person to give advice} I do everything "wrong" I fed on demand and I had JJ in our room up until 3 months I think. I would feed JJ in the night and then he would fall asleep on my chest for the rest of the night. He didn't "sleep" in his crib till 3 months and he would only sleep at night in his crib {and I only moved him over because he was sleeping through the night}. He didn't nap in his crib until he was 5 months old, not because I didn't try but because he just didn't so he took most of his naps up until then in the bouncer, swing or on me being held. Now JJ still sleeps through the night and takes 2 or 3 hours naps in his crib during the day so I guess I did something right haha. Good luck!! She is seriously such a doll!!!
I put Beckham in his crib after a month, he stayed in their for a month, and now he's been back in our room for a month ;) I SWEAR he sleeps so much better in our room, and until he's a pro sleeper I'm leavin him in there, cause he's a happier baby when he sleeps at night! Also, I have a friend who is a child psychologist and when I told him I was going to start letting beckham cry it out at night, he said NOT to until he's 4 months. It can cause serious trust issues or somethin. I know everyone does everything different though, so it's totally up to you! Just trust your mama instinct!
First off- who took that picture of the three of you?? I LOVE it!
Jayden slept in our room for the first 5 weeks. It got to the point where every noise he made woke me up... but before that he NEVER slept in his crib.
Don't worry. No damage was done. Now he will ONLY sleep in his crib. To start off with, I would just do whatever is easier for you!!
Ok, well I'm no expert but I ran into the same problem when I had Kaden (him waking Judd up during the night so he was tired at work). I ended up sleeping in the spare room with Kaden in a portacrib. This only lasted until he was about 2 months old and then I needed him to sleep in his crib. After the first week everything worked out awesome and he slept fine. It is hard to let them get used to it because they cry, but I know people that don't move their baby out of their room until they are way old, it would drive me nuts!
This exact same thing happened to me. I know it gets so frustrating. What I did is I put her in her own room (still in the basinett) when she was 2 months old and then at three months I switched her to her crib. I didn't let her cry it out until she was 3 months b/c I tried it when she was 5-6 weeks and I felt like she was too young to understand what was going on. I think its a newborn thing to want to be held all the time (at least it was for kaylee) and she will grow out of it little by little.
Sorry I have no advice for you in that department but I'm sure I'll be calling you everyday for your help once my little one is here, anyways I wanted to tell you that your new family picture you put on the blog is so cute! Have a good birthday dinner tonight, sorry I can't make it!
Poor Ariel,
Oh how I remember the days. My advice: let go. You have NO control anymore so embrace it :) JK. I slept with Truly for 6 weeks so we could both get sleep. I had a bed in Owen's room for a month. Both of my kids transitioned from sleeping with me by sleeping in their carseat/baby swing/bouncer. Then, when I felt like they were old/big enough I put them in their cribs.
I never thought I would be like this. I was determined to have my baby sleep through the night. But it just didn't happen. I think you just do what you have to do to ge some precious sleep. Everyone is different and despite what guilt would have you believe, their is no right way. Your baby will live and thrive what ever you decide to do.
Good luck, you'll do great,
Brit
Every baby is different. Jonah slept in our room always because we were in a one bedroom at the time:) haha. He did, however, sleep in his carseat for about 4 months because he slept better than in the crib. At 6 months I finally put him on his tummy to sleep and he slept for hours and hours. It was great!
I think Serena will figure out what she likes soon. I would keep trying the crib though. If you and Sean are always trashed, it will make you grouchy at each other........eventually:) NOT speaking from experience at all!!!!!
I'm the kinda person that has the baby in their crib the very first day only because i dont get any sleep when they are in the same room with me. I wake up to every noise, or just sit and wonder when they are going to wake up.
I never let my kids "cry it out" til about 3 months. But if they learn to go to sleep by themselves, you'll both sleep better. That way you can lay her down in the middle of the night, go back to sleep and she'll fall asleep on her own.
I agree there's no right way and each kid is different. With my oldest I just loved holding him all day so he hated the crib... but eventually got there. my youngest DIDN'T like sleeping with us after awhile. I always worried about my husband too. You'll figure out what works best for you. There were also times I just let them sleep in their carseat IN the crib just to get them used to it :) sometimes it really is just whatever you have to do to get some sleep. I slept in the car a lot too just because I was too scared to wake them up
We had Miles in our room for a month. Then it was off to the nursery (right next door). Having him in our room for those first weeks was a life saver, but after that, we all slept better with Miles in a separate room. He was pretty easy going about it. Definately do what feels right for your family. I think this along with most other parenting decisions is a trial and error process with your best guesses as to what is right.
Good luck!
Both my kids were in there cribs in my room for SEVEN months. So you probably don't want any advice from me! During the first six weeks I would just do whatever makes her happy! After that I think sleep training is much easier. There is a great book called "Good Night, Sleep Tight" that I really like! Don't worry...it doesn't recommend seven months of rooming-in!
My very favorite sleep book is Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. I LOVE this book and have followed it since Oaklee was born. Oaklee is such a good sleeper.
Maybe if you start putting Serena in her crib for naps during the day, then you can start to get used to the idea of her being her crib:). But at night if you feel like the best way for you to get sleep is to have her in your room, then I wouldn't push it.
It does get better. I promise! One day you will feel rested again.
Good question! But I don't have an answer for you. Isaac is still in our room and we don't have any plans to move him out. He does sleep pretty well which is why we haven't worried about moving him yet. Today just for fun we put him in his crib so he could see his mobile but that was the first time he's been in it. His naps are in the bouncer, swing, or on the floor. We really have no idea what we are doing and keep our fingers crossed that he turns out all right!
ok what i think is just hold her 24/7 i miss holding her already! it was great seeing you both last night!!
THANK YOU for all of the comments & advice! I think we'll keep her in our room at least until she's two months old. I'm just hoping this wide-awake-at-4-am thing will be a short-lived phase :)
We did the bassinet for the first 2-3 weeks, but seriously we could have done it longer...I was the same "She is not sleeping in my room for long!" BUT, Don't worry about the "she'll only fall asleep in my arms, etc. etc." Claire was like that for the first few months. At month 3 things start changing for all babies. By 6 weeks, that's the peak of their "fussiness" and they start getting a lot easier! Now, at 5 months, she takes naps in her crib just fine during the day--this wasn't the case before...only in my arms or around me with noise around...and she sleeps in her crib at night. She also falls RIGHT back to sleep after I feed her at night (she wakes up once still), so that's nice. Hope this helps! I was stressed about those same things!!
Oh yeah, and I heard you're not supposed to let them "cry it out" until 6 months, so I'm waiting til next month to do that...Claire already will go to sleep on her own if I put her in her crib half-awake... but it's the night waking that is hard for them to fall back asleep from--and the first time you train them to do so, they may be crying for 1.5 to 2 hours....ahhh!! I'm NOT looking forward to that!
i wish i had something to say, but since i'm not a mom yet, i got nuttin...LOL! but i'm going to save all these comments for the day i do!!! great advice.
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